Ever wonder why some couples make it and others don’t? John Gottman found it has a lot to do with the “Emotional Bank Account,” which represents the balance of positivity and negativity in your relationship. As relationship researcher Logan Ury explains, you make "deposits" through positive interactions and you make "withdrawals" through negative ones. In healthy relationships, the ratio of positive behaviour (showing interest, asking questions, being kind) to negative behaviour (criticism, anger, hurt feelings) is 5:1. Keep your balance high by doing nice things every day for your partner and recognising when they do nice things for you.The Gottman Institute“The Love Bank”… how many deposits and withdrawals are you making?